First Guitar!

that's cool. home recording is fun, and my band is looking for a cheaper studio to work on a new EP.

its just me and the kid so I can just go record in any room.... some have carpet, some have hardwood or ceramic tile, so I can get cool room sounds if I want or I can use a walk in closet and get bone dry, close miced tracks.... my studio area is officially the rec room, but that's just kinda mix position.... I'll run cables allover and if I need to go upstairs I can do wireless

listen, try talking to a university with a studio and a recording program.... their students need material to work on for class projects.... it'll be FREE, and if you know your business you can help the newbs not screw up your tracks... they will learn and you will get a decent free studio, simple... also, sometimes these students are fantastic engineers, you just never know... I used to sue Drexel University here in town when one of my guitar students was going there.... he and his best friend in that engineering program had fantastic ears and mad skills, I rarely had to do any engineering work with them unless I was doing something creative like recording the drums in the live room with a trashy mic in the iso booth with the door mostly closed

anyway, universities, man

so should I measure my penis or not? I don't wanna be the only guy posting a dickshot here....

Snapchat your brown eye and have googly eyes over it. If you can make it look like it's talking, you win.

thanks! :) i've actually recorded at the local high school in their recording studio.

you must live in a wealthy area, my highschool didn't have a recording studio.... and it had metal detectors on the doors as early as like '98

My hometown did have any of that. We never really had a crime problem until Hurricane Katrina. Our town adopted 50 families after the disaster and it made crimes rise 500% in the first year. A year or so ago we had our first school shooting. I remember when I was a teenager, the only shocking piece of news I ever heard there was when a woman killed herself in the park.

Last time I was there, there was a ton of trash blowing around on the streets, people walking around half dressed, and tagging on the walls. I'm visiting again in a couple of days and I wouldn't be surprised if the once quiet town looks like a prison rec yard.

wow, that's rough. i do live in a more fortunate area, so i really count myself as lucky that we have those opportunities. that said, there ARE full pat downs every once in a while.

I actually went to school in what was technically a suburb of Philly, but it was close to the northeast border and we got a lot of kids from North (the hood) who used a grandparent's address to get into a suburban highschool... not that we didn't have a lot of homegrown delinquents. I lived in a low rent but nice enough aprt of town while there were richer areas in spades there was also a big wrong-side-of-thr-tracks trailpark area and right at the city limits there were tons of ratty apartment complexes that were cheaper than even the city and the management would look the other way on like 2 poor families of 3 or 4 jammed into a little 2 bedroom sleeping on mattresses...

anyway, you seem affluent, or like you were raised by affluent parents at least... I was such a street-punk hustler when I was a kid.

my town has TONS of hood-ish kids and places, and I personally am not from the rich area of town. so there are plenty of rich-as-fuck people. I am not rich-as-fuck, but i am not poor by any means, so...

I was definitely poor as a kid and I would still class as poor now, but barely. I wouldn't be so poor now if it weren't for being a single dad.... kids are expensive with 1 income and no child support coming in.

His mom is dead though. Doesn't that entitled you to Social Security?

His mom is dead though. Doesn't that entitled you to Social Security?

Sooo many better ways to word asking this... if at all.

yes and we're applied, but it won't be much as she was such a bum she barely worked her entire life so she abrely paid in.... and the application process takes a year, we just got a case worker

I actually no know all about dealing with social security from my day job, I am doing my best to expedite...

when I say I'm poor I don't mean we're on foodstamps or anything, but we are just above that line and I don't own my home and I am a ta point in my life where I expected to be a homeowner... I could make more money if I didn''t want to work from home, but daycare is rough because the latest you can get anyone to keep them is 6pm and pretty much everyone upcharges you by the minute after 5 or 5:30pm, so its very difficult in an industry where every month the accounting department has to stay until 6 or alter a few nights a week... as a consultant I make my own hours and only go into the offices when I need to, but I take a tax hit or I have to kick some of my salary back to a referring agency for the duration of the contract and there will be periods where I may not be working and other periods here I am in 2 or more contracts busting ass, working well into the night but at home... this wille ase up when he's potty trained soon.... the options for 'after school programs' that run alter than 5 or 5:30 for no additional charge opens way up once your kid is out of pullups and can manage the potty without adult assistance. Right now though? I am severely limited. Its a work in progress.

its a shame because his social security would help with child care, but I didn't get the death certificate to apply for it until November so I don't expect to see the backpay until july or august at the earliest... I am about tog et a HUGE tax return as a widower, maybe that'll help but I had rather planned to put it down on a new car

yeah, i feel. sorry about that.

His mom is dead though. Doesn't that entitled you to Social Security?

Sooo many better ways to word asking this... if at all.

Boom's not known for his tact, its okay

why, did you sell my wife the heroin cut with deadly phentanyl?

no, i'm just sympathetic. i know it really doesnt ean anything coming from a stranger on the internet.

Eh, death is death.

Speaking of death, my heart's hurting. More coffee should help. By the way, I don't think we've met proper. Narcist. I don't recall seeing you dropping a bio in the new member thread, so how do you like to be referred to as?

I got ya, its just weird sometimes hearing "I'm so sorry" from people because in the grand scheme of things this was the best thing that could have happened.

I'm going to go off now:

She was a VERY troubled person, very unhappy and she became someone who was impossible to live with.... she loved our son, but she was so erratic that she was a really destabilizing presence in his life sometimes and with a custody schedule she would be the parent in charge on certain days regardless of her mental state and she could be so childish and possessive with her love towards him and me that she wouldn't be thinking about his overall best interests, just about making sure he was with her for the max time allowed by law (or more if she was allowed) and part of it was sticking it to me because I wouldn't take her back so she could get burned on momming it and start ignoring him to pursue extracurricular activities. I knew I made the right call when the court handed me temporary full custody and restricted her to visitation within my home county at my discretion and then for the 6 months leading up to her death instead of coming out here at my expense (I offered) to visit him a long weekend every month she returned to full time drug use instead of just dabbling. She evens topped calling him on a regular basis after a month or so which was really sad since she had been militant about making me put him on skype every single night during my time in the period where we were 50/50.... see the lead up to her death was sad, when she died it turned out to be surprisingly easy to explain it to Lucian and get him over it and its not like she ever contributed financially. Before the breakup her contribution to the household was being sexy.... then it was being pregnant.... then it was basically being a baby sitter while I was at my 9to5, but she would just be like "take the baby, I am so sick of doing this" the minute I got home and she would stay up late and sleep in all weekend so it was really all me then. Oh, she did the laundry, but damn was she good at shrinking clothes. I cooked, I cleaned, I paid the bills... so its not a lot different now other than having lost my free sitter. Oh, and I never get laid now, but as I discovered when the baby arrived you just don't have the time even if you have the energy once you have a child. I remember a few times I came ome and the baby was strapped in the baby-swing bawling and she would be locked in a bathroom. She just wasn't cut out for it. The marriage was shakey when we moved to DC and she got pregnant, but it got a lot worse with the screaming little third wheel involved. I miss her sometimes, but I don't miss the relapses, legal troubles and random temper tantrums.... not those, no sir, I do not miss ducking while my guitar pedals careen towards my head. I swear I shoulda bought a football helmet after the 1st year of marriage when she started get snippy...

I do hope you felt better getting that off your chest. Had I decided to brew another batch of coffee, I would have said something earlier. Instead, I gave in at around 0255 or later, I think.

Three hours. Gotta wake up again... MORE COFFEE