When a baby is sleeping right next to it it might be hard.
But I play a Hod Rod IV 40W at Home at low volume does say Volume close to 2 and it does sound amzing on cleans and an Marshall JCM800 100W at home does Sound also Great and not too loud with Master on 0.8 or 0.9 , its OKish. I do not know where this is coming from that you can not play them quite , maybe I just can deal with it or got the ones can be played, maybe it is because I am in germany we got really solid walls always made thic and out of concrete and not like a lot to find in the US made from plywood or something like this...
but yes when you touch the knobs by or something , it will be a super sonic classified weapon knocking out your windows, so need to check this all the time and better make markings and only dial in with finger tippings on the knob. And I did put the Amps / Cabinet on styrofoam where they came with in the box , so they do not transform all the vibrations into the floor.
And then you can take it , when you got a strong back, infront of a crowd , who should listen and stop talking and they will , I swear they will , there is no other way, they have to run very far and most are too lazy, hehehe.
Both played Free without any attenuator and with pedals , you have to be a bit carefull some pedals will turn up the Volume , have to tame them.
But Tubies and Transitors are great, depends what Amp you buy in the End there are also very bad Tubies and very bad Transitor Amps as well,
I would say, you should not choose an Amp by Tubes or Transistors , ....
just go for the Sound you are looking for then try out Amps going this way and when they do not boss you up into heaven then never buy an Amp an Amp without Pedals does sound really amazing when you found the right one and you will wanna have the Amp in your bed at night just to listen to it when falling asleep on the 4x12 Cabinet , then you found the right one.
There are also Transitor Amps do Sound very great when you looking for this type of Sound like some Fender Tone Master do sound clean great , or the Roland Chorus is a very great direct sound to stand out of a band very different to a clean fender sound , also some High Gain Metal Amps are great and Transitors and like mentioned all are very different in Sound and can be great Transistors ....
But most people I would say will end up with tubes , tubes are still more organic , warmer and more fat in sound, not all the time but overall mostly,
and most Amps can do a lot are a bad choice as far as I can say , just search for an Amp can do one sound very great , you will find much more what you love all the time instead of an Amp can deal all the sounds in music history, it is mostly impossible that they will sound good.
Like my hot rod is very bad on gain , you can play it but mostly you will not like it at all , but the cleans are just heaven, and the JCM800 does sound very thin and lifeless on cleans , you will also not like a lot, of course you can put on both pedals to make them better the hod rod with a fuzz or a good overdrive is great and jcm clean with a reverb or a tiny bit of warm pedals or making the cleans wide , does sound then also much better.
When you have to be very very quite at home, then I would more say a speaker does not make sense , then you are sadly depending on Headphones all the time, there are also Transistors are much too loud and hard to get quite on bedroom level.
For me this is only in the middle of the night or when someone is on the phone, but not when they just are there and talking to each others, I can still hear the door bell and playing along music ... no problem at all, even with the JCM800 100W.